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Randomness about me

I do have the about me section on this site and here is adding on to it. Random bits and pieces that somewhat define me 🙂

  1. I prefer things very ordered and structured , that applies to my work and home both. It is very unlikely that you will encounter with any mess/disorder of stuff in my home even if you land up on a weekday at 6pm !
  2. Changes and me don’t get along well , yes I have 2 posts dedicated to this very fact.
  3. There are 2 things I wish I could change about myself .. the absolutely curly hair and my super short height.. sigh.
  4. I have always been very good at academics , competitive and excelling .
  5. I wish I could go back and study again .. this is something more in my hands to decide and act upon but procrastination rules..
  6. I might sound ambitiously dead , but since the last couple of years or so .. I am the least expectant of what I achieve at my job as long as I am honest at my work. May be an indication to move out , or not ?
  7. My day starts at 6am and ends by 9pm .. yes we are the age old “early to bed early to rise ” family !
  8. Bollywood music is chicken soup for my soul in any mood , especially the oldies.
  9. Talking of Bollywood .. I was an eternal fan of SRK .. until I watched Ra.One  and then Happy New Year. Trust me , I was in depression for few hours thinking of who I was all gaga over since my teens 😦 😦
  10. Food and cooking have never fascinated me , in fact I used to crib over the fact that we had to eat 3 times a day ! But now with D in picture  priorities and fascinations have clearly changed 😀
  11. Temper has clearly been the trait I have been trying to ease down on for many years. Especially with just the 3 of us in this firang land is absolutely necessary for peace in the household !
  12. Some of my most adored pastimes – snuggling up with any of the Harry Potter books , masala chai with someone to chat with .. watching the rains from the window , answering D’s non stop questions until the point I have to beg her to stop , coffee anytime with friends even 11pm .. and so on..
  13. I take very little time to get ready , be it work for any function. Usually it is only the kajal and liner that are my regulars  may be with a touch of gloss and some compact for special occasions. And ofcourse if it is a wedding or anything like that , I have to straighten my hair 😀
  14. I hate wearing jewelry , gold or pearl or fake ..anything. It is just not comfortable for me to carry it off.
  15. I can’t start my day without a steaming cup for ginger tea or masala tea .. I need it within 15 min of waking up so that the day is off to a smooth start ! And yes coffee does not have the same magic as tea in the mornings.
  16. If you have watched the movie Jab Tak Hai Jaan I am somewhat like Katrina’s character .. definitely not to the extent they show in the movie. But I believe in the give and take with God . If I have a special request it comes with a cost of me giving up something special for a while or forever 🙂

Hmm , can’t think of anymore now .May be I will append to the list in another post soon !


Change and me – 2

Continuing from the previous post here .

So life was as miserable as it could be , or rather as I made it to be. Days were the same mundane routine and I did not realize how time sped by as we completed 2, 3 and almost 4 months in Sydney. The weather started changing with spring in full bloom ..longer and sunnier days . Hubby was much more comfortable driving around and so we ventured quite a bit for sight seeing . That is when I discovered the amazing parks and green space in this country. D just loved it and watching her so happy when outdoors made us so very happy too. We made a few but good friends , folks that we got to know only in the last few months and yet connected so well. I will cover few of those friends in another post . Meanwhile I was dealing with the change in a different way now coz I had realized that me being sulky reflected on D and hubby as well. Despite all my apprehensions about the change , we were here for some time and I wanted to make the best of it. Some of my friends (not in Sydney) were very helpful , those that had dealt with similar relocations and those that knew how difficult this was going to be for me. Their emails and messages kept me going !

Come summer and it was a entirely different place , sunlight till 8pm and loads of outdoors! We started inviting close friends for lunches and dinners and visited them also . Moved into a bigger place  , did a road trip in the Dec vacations with D and loved it. At work too , things settled down for me ..It was not the dream role I wanted but it came with the flexibility that I could not trade for anything . I also discovered another comfort soup to calm down by homesick self 🙂  Indian soaps. Yes I do watch about a couple of them adhoc and I love them despite the logic (or lack of it !)

Adapting to change is still a learning process for me , even now I have days where I feel very low and miss Bangalore and my folks very much. But those days are much less frequent . Hubby and I have seen each other so lonely and desperate for family in the last one year that it has brought us lot closer  and are totally a team now. Work, cooking , daily chores , outdoors – we try and do as much as we can and have fun. Ofcourse it is hectic and tiring , but that is a better way to deal with change than being lonely and sulking , isn’t it 🙂

Changes and Me

A huge driver for the existence of this blog is about any change and my resistance to it.

People who have known me well , close friends and even work folks have told me many a times that I do not take to change very well. Thankfully I have not had to deal with many of such great changes so far, up until the last year. When I got married it was the hubby who relocated and changed jobs so that we could be together . Things remained the same for me . Work wise .. hold your breath .. I have stuck to the same organization for 11 years now. Yes ..I started as an intern and almost settled down here ! D’s arrival brought a whole bot of changes but I was still in my comfort zone with family , friends and my space at work. It was only last year that we dealt with an entirely huge magnitude of change when we relocated to Sydney. Both me and hubby have visited and worked abroad for many years , but nothing was even remotely close to the experience we were about to have in Down Under !

We landed here in June , which is when winter kicks off in the Southern hemisphere and for the first time in my 30 some  years June was cold and harsh with the day getting over at 4.30pm ! I actually did without my daily ritual of afternoon tea because it was night already   by that time. We did not have a car initially and so in the first couple of months we had to take the trains or walk to do all the shopping – which was a lot considering we were just starting out here. Home delivery is not free in this place unless you shop for a hefty amount that did not work out for us. Indian stores and supermarkets are not as how they are in the US. Plus all the walking. While in India my daily walking was all that I did in the house , and some times an evening walk in the apartment complex . Here we had to get walking and running shoes so as to ease a bit all the fast walking we did . Not all work places are closer to public transport and especially mine is a good 15-18 mins walk one way. Furniture shopping was another nightmare for me , home delivery costs are high and the patience and effort it takes to assemble a not-so-simple-one could be the real test to one’s marriage ! I actually broke down once while at it  so hubby had to handle the assembly and me 😐

The cold , the lack of sunshine as we are used to in India and all the above changes made be a very different person. I could snap and get cranky very frequently , nothing about Sydney was positive at that time. I also had to follow up on how D was dealing at her childcare . That too works very differently outside of India with much focus on the child’s independence at a very young age. And the biggest element of change was having no family around us. My sister , hubby’s brother and family all lived within a 5km radius in India  and we had both sets of parents visiting us quite often. We were missing that terribly .

Quite expectedly I questioned the relocation bit , were we any better here. Neither me or hubby are over ambitious and we relocated only for a better and safer lifestyle and upbringing for D . Moving back was discussed as well but I could not handle another wind up and then a set up activity so soon. So we decided to give ourselves some more time and think bit more positively…

… to continue in the next post..

About me..

So, this is my very first post and here is short version of about me. As the name of the blog suggests I am definitely a mama 🙂

A mama to a 3 and half year old who is my life and with whom everyday is a blessing to look forward to . An Indian by heart, mind and soul , I  live and work at Sydney with the hubby and my daughter who shall be henceforth referred to as D in the blog. It has been years since I have been addicted to some blogs , mostly related to motherhood and those with strong feminist messages. Oh yes, I should probably add , feminism comes naturally and very strongly to me and I would certainly love to contribute my bit to making the world a better and more equal place for women. So here is me , saying a warm Hiii to all my readers , and eager to share my life in bits and pieces . My life , my dreams , D and much more..

Happy reading everyone and I would love to see comments and suggestions coming in to better this space .